Love With Two Beliefs
“Often white guys would try hitting on me by telling me how much they love Indian food." Just ridiculous. It was kind of overwhelming to be a girl in the world of online dating — I needed to make a spreadsheet to keep up. So when I saw that Khalil matched with me I liked him back, and he messaged me right away.
His profile was kind of ridiculous. It was mostly just Nickelback songs. After doing online dating for a while, what I knew was I'd rather not spend a long time getting to know him. If he seemed normal, we'd have a drink, rather than building up this idea of who he is.
The courtship was pretty short and sweet. On the site we used, they have a question that asks the things you can't live without, and I wrote kajal, which is the Indian name for eyeliner. And he wrote to me that he thought kajal was bad for the eyes and something about the evil eye. And then he joked that his parents were in town to get him an arranged marriage. I was just like, "OK, cool. Let's have a drink." And that was the end of it. I actually forgot his name — I only remembered that he was no. 3, because I had planned four first dates in two days. But when I met him, it was just so easy and great. We kissed at the end of the night. When I got home, he texted me that he was deleting his account, and I was like, OK.
We dated very slowly to start off. It was the beginning of summer in New York, and every weekend was busy. So I saw Khalil like once a week for the first six weeks or so, but then we started getting a little more serious.
This is actually my first serious relationship, and we're at almost a year now. Things are great; I'm so happy. The one thing that is a bit of a problem is, funnily enough, although we're both Indian, he's Muslim, and my background is Sikh. Our families don't know about us, because it's kind of a taboo. We're thinking about how and when we'll tell our families. Both our siblings and my mom know and are happy for us. My father will have a difficult time with it, but I believe will accept him in time. His parents are more traditional, and it would be hard for them to accept me, without hurting his relationship with them.”